Still Here! Still Queer! Now What?
For many LGBTQ+ adults in midlife, the legacy of stigma, silence, and survival still lives in our bodies. We grew up during the AIDS crisis. We navigated Section 28. We were told we would end up lonely, tragic, or dead. And yet, we’re still here.
Still Here! Still Queer! Now What? is a declaration of power for LGBTQ+ people entering the next chapter of life. It celebrates who we are and invites us to rediscover the joy, magic, and wholeness that have always been ours.
Coach and activist Dr Paul Taylor-Pitt offers a practical and inspiring toolkit for queer midlife flourishing. Drawing on lived experience, interviews, and coaching frameworks, he provides tools and reflections to help us move beyond shame, reconnect with pleasure, and step into our most vibrant, deliberate selves.
This is a love letter to Generation X queers and a celebration that we are still here, still queer, and ready to live with renewed purpose and pride.
Still Here! Still Queer! Now What? is a declaration of power for LGBTQ+ people entering the next chapter of life. It celebrates who we are and invites us to rediscover the joy, magic, and wholeness that have always been ours.
Coach and activist Dr Paul Taylor-Pitt offers a practical and inspiring toolkit for queer midlife flourishing. Drawing on lived experience, interviews, and coaching frameworks, he provides tools and reflections to help us move beyond shame, reconnect with pleasure, and step into our most vibrant, deliberate selves.
This is a love letter to Generation X queers and a celebration that we are still here, still queer, and ready to live with renewed purpose and pride.
Reviews
In a world rarely designed with queer people in mind, what a joy to find this smart, thoughtful book.
Growing up, I thought I was the only boy like me. Growing older, I began to feel alone again-where were the other men like me? Paul's book helped reconnect me to my queerness and engage meaningfully and joyfully with my growing queer community.
This is the book I've been pining for. As queer people, we're often left to navigate life and aging without a map, but Dr. Taylor-Pitt has emerged as a wise cartographer who is never afraid to reveal his own vulnerabilities. There is no one way of being queer and no one way of aging, but Paul has given us all a hell of an atlas.
Paul gives us permission in his book. Permission to live by our own rules, that we can get it wrong and try again, to reconnect with joy, to love ourselves unconditionally. We have survived dark times and good ones. We absolutely are still here, still queer, and ready to live with purpose, unapologetically.
I came to this book expecting a glimpse of the road ahead; instead, I found a mirror. Warm, funny and fiercely life-affirming, Still Here! Still Queer! Now What? honours the histories that made us while offering compassionate, practical ways to become more wholly ourselves. Paul Taylor-Pitt makes ageing feel not like a narrowing of possibility, but an invitation to live more vividly, more deliberately and more queerly. I finished it feeling connected to the generations ahead of me - and excited to join them.
Generation X queer people grew up believing we'd be lucky just to survive, if we even believed we'd survive at all. AIDS shaped our dark, twisted sense of humour (no regrets), our resilience, our relationships, and the baggage many of us are only now beginning to unpack. This book is a funny, compassionate, and much-needed reminder that surviving was never meant to be the end of our story.
A beautiful combination of stories and social history, noticing and naming what is, Paul invites us all to consider the possibility of what might be.
Taylor-Pitt turns midlife into an invitation, not a crisis. Through interviews with queer people and his own unfiltered story he shows that wholeness was never broken, only waiting to be reclaimed. Funny, rigorous, and exactly the elder wisdom our community needs.